I totally had this yesterday about an event I had committed to organising, however I'd missed that I was already busy that night. Instead of doing something about it I just stewed defensively about everyone who'd be annoyed by whichever event I'd have to cancel.
Then I realised this is actually a good opportunity to work on my experiment of asking for help. When I saw it as an experiment in receiving help, the resistance fell away and I was able to take action and clear it off my plate. Relief!
Thanks for sharing your experience with avoidance, Kyle! What powerful awareness to notice the initial spiral of avoidance and defensiveness. I love how you reframed the situation as an experiment in asking for help. It sounds like growth is important to you as well as in being reliable. And yes to that feeling of relief when it's no longer weighing you down is priceless! Cheering you on!
I totally had this yesterday about an event I had committed to organising, however I'd missed that I was already busy that night. Instead of doing something about it I just stewed defensively about everyone who'd be annoyed by whichever event I'd have to cancel.
Then I realised this is actually a good opportunity to work on my experiment of asking for help. When I saw it as an experiment in receiving help, the resistance fell away and I was able to take action and clear it off my plate. Relief!
Thanks for sharing your experience with avoidance, Kyle! What powerful awareness to notice the initial spiral of avoidance and defensiveness. I love how you reframed the situation as an experiment in asking for help. It sounds like growth is important to you as well as in being reliable. And yes to that feeling of relief when it's no longer weighing you down is priceless! Cheering you on!